Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Zachary Paul: Birth Story


We are now a family of five!!  I've said it a bunch, but I seriously can't believe I have three kids.  I always thought that when I was married with three kids I would feel a lot more old and mature than I do!   With moving, selling our house, job changes, vacation, family reunions, and everything else this past year, pregnancy number three flew by so fast we hardly had time to get ready for a new baby!  But, ready or not, we are so happy that Zachary is here and healthy!

Zachary Paul Day was born on October 20,2015 in the WakeMed Cary Hospital.  He was 7lbs 5oz and 19.5 inches long.  We really struggled with naming this one.  Boy names are hard for us!  Zachary was a name we both liked at the beginning, then put on the backburner while we tossed around a bunch of others for 9 months, but in the end couldn't find any we liked better so we went with it!  The middle name- Paul- is named for Jon's dad.

Zach was born six days ahead of my due date, but this was also my first baby who was induced.  We deciced to do induction because with our recent move to NC, we didn't have any family or close friends who could watch Colton and Katie in the area and we wanted to be able to fly in our mom's to be here to help.  It also played in that late October was one of Jon's busiest times in his new job and he wanted to be able to be there with me as much as possible.

Being induced was a bit weird.  It was strange knowing the day Zach would be born and waking up that morning and driving to the hospital- feeling perfectly fine- knowing that in a few hours I'd have a baby.  When I was in labor with the last two, there wasn't a lot of time for thinking since I was in pain and there was nothing I could do to stop that baby from coming!
The morning Zach was born- just before we left to the hospital.

We got to the hospital at 7am, Tuesday morning, checked in and then got all hooked up and they started the pitocin.  I was a bit surprised when they told me that I had to wait until I was feeling a good amount of pain before I could request the epidural.  Again, it was a weird feeling to just sit around waiting until I was in pain.  They could only up the dosage of pitocin every 15 min so it took awhile until I was feeling it, but finally- by about 11am- I was feeling it enough to request the epidural.  I made sure to tell them, and really stress, that I wanted it to be as effective as possible since I felt like my last two births were still super painful (even with an epidural).  I didn't even know if it could get much better for me or if epidural's just didn't work very well on me, but I wanted them to try!

Around 2pm the midwife and nurse came in and said that I wasn't contracting hard enough, but they couldn't give me any more pitocin unless they put some probe thing in to measure the exact strength of the contractions.  We asked what this could mean and they said worse case scenario it meant C-section but most like just meant that things were going to take longer that we had expected and it could be several more hours before baby arrived.  Obviously, this worried us a little bit but we said prayers and just hoped all would go well!

(Sidenote: I had a midwife deliver me this time instead of a doctor.  It wasn't really a matter of preference.  My practice had both doctors and midwifes and the day I was being induced there was a doctor and a midwife on call and I had never seen either in the office.  I had met the midwife once because she had come to introduce herself to me on my first visit because she had heard I moved from the Quad Cities and she was from there.  She was super nice (and the doctor I had seen in the office a bunch highly recommended her) so I decided I'd go with the midwife!)

Once they got an accurate reading of the contractions from the probe, they upped my pitocin and brought in this dumbell shaped yoga ball thing to put between my knees to help with things.  A couple hours later, the nurse came and checked me and said I was getting closer.   She said she would have the midwife come in to take a look and assess after she finished with a delivery next door.  Shortly thereafter, around 4:30pm, I started feeling like I was going to have the baby.  I thought this was probably crazy since, as far as I knew, the contractions still weren't quite strong enough, and it hadn't gotten very painful yet.  Still, every time I contracted I felt almost like I had to hold the baby in so he wouldn't pop out.

The nurse came back in and said that the midwife was still busy but that she'd be in soon so we should start some preliminary pushing and then we could finish up when the midwife got there.  We got all ready to start pushing and the nurse says, "Ok, push on three.  Ready?  One, two, ok stop.  Just kidding, don't push.  I can see his head already.  We gotta get the midwife in here!"  So I guess my feeling that the baby might pop out wasn't all that crazy!  We had to wait a few more minutes for her to get there but, once she did, I only pushed twice and the baby came out!  Zachary Paul arrived at 5:16pm, and BIG NEWS, it didn't hurt NEARLY as bad as the last two!  YAY!!  Best epidural I've had for sure!

I was a little worried at first because Zach wasn't making any sounds right away because the cord was wrapped around his neck pretty good.  They worked quickly to remove it, and once he was free he started screaming!  (It's weird that when you first have a baby, you really want them to cry and then every day after you jut want them to stop crying...)  They put Zach on my chest and I only held him for about a minute or two and then all of a sudden I got really dizzy and lightheaded.  I had to ask Jon to hurry and take the baby so I wouldn't drop him, and then everything got blurry and foggy.  I just closed my eyes and tried not to pass out.  I think I lay there for about half an hour totally out of it.  I found out after, that after I had passed the placenta, I hemmhoraged about a liter of blood.  Because of all the blood loss I felt week and dizzy for about the next 24 hours and had to keep the IV in for an extra day, as well as a catheter (which was totally rotten) because I almost passed out again when I tried to go to the bathroom, even with help.

We love our baby Zach and we are so happy to have him here!  Baby cuddles are so sweet and even Katie and Colton are constantly asking to hold and hug and kiss him. Since he's been here, we've just been working on adjusting to a new baby!  Zach got thrush soon after birth- my guess is from the antibiotics I got during labor for Strep B- and that has made nursing crazy painful!!   Like, fire of a thousand suns painful!  Haha, we did finally get some medication for us both though and it seems to be getting a little better.

Overall, despite the hemhorrage and the thrush (technically not part of the birth but I'm including in because it's all just pain associated with a newborn), this was definitely my easiest- and quickest- birth!  Here's hoping they just get easier from here on out!  If I decide to have any more that is...

We enjoyed having both of our mom's visit and help out with the new baby!  We only wish they could have stayed longer and that more of the family could have come!










First Bath!



Monday, September 28, 2015

North Carolina

We've been in North Carolina now for a couple months now and things are pretty good.  We're still settling in but I feel like we'll probably still be working on that until we move!  Do you ever get to the point where you feel totally settled?  It's pretty in North Carolina.  There are lots of trees, and now that we are approaching fall, the weather is a lot more nice and tolerable.  The kids and I try to stay busy with walks, going to the park, playing with friends, story times at the library, etc.  In the summer we had fun going to our neighborhood pool and playing at the splash pad in town.

When we moved out here, Jon and I mad a goal that we were going to go out and do more things together as a family.  I feel like we've done a pretty good job so far!  We've taken the kids to the movies for the first time, been to the beach, gone hiking together as a family, and we have a few more things planned we are hoping to do before the baby comes!  It's been tricky finding time to do things because Jon is so busy with work and his calling as Young Men's President but we're making it work!

Change is hard, but we still feel like this was a good move for our family!  One day we hope to be able to live a lot closer to family and some of the great friends we've made over the years, but we'll just keep following where we feel prompted to go!  I know the Lord is looking out for us!












Walking trail near our house the kids love looking for animals and dinosaurs in the trees!

There's no dinosaurs on our walk but there are lots of these lizards!

The walking trail near our house has a lake it goes by that is home to these two ducks.
The kids always make us stop to say hi!
Story time!
Wrightsville Beach, NC





Family Hike at Ravenrock State Park, NC









Homemade Icecream at Sunnyside after our hike!  Katie's face cracks me up!


Sunday, September 6, 2015

Minnesota Vacation

Just under 2 weeks after we arrived in North Carolina we packed our bags again and headed to MN for Jon's biannual family reunion.  Thankfully I had convinced Jon that taking on another 18 hour (1 way) drive 2 weeks after our 36 hour drive to NC was craz,y and we got to fly to MN.  It was the first time Katie had been on a plane and Colton's only time since he was 6 months old.  We were a little nervous but they did pretty well and were excited about the whole thing!
It was really hard getting any decent pictures on the plane but I needed to keep at least one to document their first flight- so here it is! 

We were in MN for about 10 days, most of which was at Flandrau State Park in New Ulm where Jon's family had rented out a Scout camp with little cabins for the week.  It's nothing fancy and it was super hot but we all had pretty fun!  We got to go swimming at the park's swimming hole, where the kids enjoyed paddling around and digging in the sand, spend lots of time playing with cousins, go on a short hike to a pretty waterfall, tube down the river, and the adults even got to go out one night to a restaurant while the older cousins babysat!  The tubing was an interesting experience.  We were nervous about bringing our kids but decided we might as well try and see what happened.  I think it may have gone a little smoother had it not happened over nap time, but all in all they did alright.  After Katie cried the first 15 minutes straight because she wanted her own tube and didn't want me to share it with her, she calmed down and both kids seemed to enjoy it for about the next hour.  It was just the last half hour or so when they got sick of it and started whining again (and we just had to deal with it since there was nowhere else to go) that it got a little obnoxious!  All in all, more positives than negatives and I'm glad we did it!  Jon's sister was the star of the reunion since she bought her own snow cone maker and brought it to the park!  It was definitely a high point of each day and I think I'm convinced I need to buy one now...

It's always lots of fun spending time with Jon's family!  There are nine kids in Jon's family- all married- and 33 grand-kids, with 3 more on the way, and they are all loud and crazy in their own ways!   They are always good for some good games and conversation and fun debates!  It's gonna be a hard couple years living so far away from any of mine or Jon's family, but it'll give us time to make new friends and enjoy time with our own little growing family :)












Grandkids!  I think you can tell how good the parents are by how happy the children look...

Day Family 2015